Taimalelagi Mataio Faafetai (Matt) Brown, is a New Zealand-born Samoan author and renowned communicator who works to eradicate domestic violence by supporting those who perpetrate violence, to heal. A survivor of family violence and childhood sexual abuse himself, he originally started his domestic violence advocacy work by sharing his story with the men who frequented his busy barbershops as a way to foster vulnerability, healing, and connection.
Matt believes his true calling lies in his work to redefine society’s view of masculinity and help end the cycle of domestic violence plaguing families worldwide. For over a decade, Matt has hosted free men’s anti-violence support groups in locations like barbershops, construction sites, gang pads, prisons, and Indigenous spaces. He has facilitated multiple programs inside men’s and youth prisons and was named a Corrections NZ patron in 2020.
A New Zealand Māori (Ngāpuhi/Te Rarawa) wāhine, Sarah is a writer and producer who is passionate about the mandate of ‘creating violence-free communities’ and has worked alongside Matt to re-define the way we communicate about family violence with creativity and innovation. Since 2018, Matt and Sarah have partnered with the NZ Ministry of Social Development as ambassadors for their ‘It’s not OK Campaign’ and were funded to develop and launch an app; innerBoy to promote accessible healing for Indigenous men. Together the couple co-founded She Is Not Your Rehab and launched the concept in Matt’s 2019 TEDx talk. Matt says the movement is an invitation for men to acknowledge their childhood trauma and to take responsibility for their healing so that they can transform their pain instead of transmitting it to those around them.
The couple released their first book; an NZ #1 Bestseller; She Is Not Your Rehab to encourage intergenerational healing in 2021, raising $100k and donating 10k+ copies of the book to all NZ prisons; to every person incarcerated and launched a book club program inside prison. In November 2022 they opened the She Is Not Your Rehab art gallery in Christchurch, NZ, and a virtual gallery online that hosts the exhibition; ‘Who is She?’ in collaboration with Mr G; an acclaimed NZ graffiti artist.
In 2023, the couple launched innerBoy, their first mental health tech product for supporting men in healing from intergenerational trauma. It is a free and accessible app available to men nationwide. It was later released in Australia in 2024. She Is Not Your Rehab also launched Love U Bro Day in 2024. Every year on September 6th Love U Bro Day aims to spark important conversations around men’s mental health – birthed in empathy and love. During the 2024 campaign, over 17 million people were reached via the viral online videos for Love U Bro Day.
Sarah and Matt became members of the New Zealand Order of Merit in 2022 and were awarded a Commonwealth Points of Light award by Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, as Head of the Commonwealth before she passed.